11 tips to help you move on from a job rejection

11 tips to help you move on from a job rejection11 tips to help you move on from a job rejectionIts hard not to takejob rejections, like any other form of rejection, personally.But separating yourself from the situation is the key to moving on after a job rejection says Erica Keswin,workplace strategistand author of Bring Your Human to Work. Hiring managers must look through numerous candidates at a time - assuming your rsummakes it to a human in the first place- so the tendency is to be curt when rejecting applicants.While Keswin says companies should be as respectful to candidates asinterviewees are expected to be, she recommends you dont dwell too much on a rejection.Follow Ladders on FlipboardFollow Ladders magazines on Flipboard covering Happiness, Productivity, Job Satisfaction, Neuroscience, and moraThe idea of honoring relationships starts with people who dont even work there yet, Keswin says. When it comes to some of these recruiters, theres no excuse in how they are treat ing people, but try to keep it at arms length.Yet even with more personalized rejection notes, the sting can be painful and lead to insecurity, says Lynn Taylor, workplace expert and author of Tame Your Terrible Office Tyrant How to Manage Childish Boss Behavior and Thrive in Your Job.Its one of the most disheartening things, especially when you think not only about the time and effort that goes into applying but how much emotion youve invested in the job, Lynn Taylor said.While talking about being rejected can be embarrassing, there are steps job seekers can take to make the most of a door closed. Here are Taylor and Kerwins best tips on getting over a job rejection.When you first get a rejection emaille, take a step back and a moment to congratulate yourself for making it this farThe time immediately after getting a rejection letter can be disheartening, Taylor says, especially if its one you have been interviewing for. If you made it through several rounds, take the initial momen ts to congratulate yourself for scoring the interview in the first place, and then take a step back from your computer to go outside or distract yourself.Rushing to crank out the next cover letter right after getting rejected can also be counterproductive, as you should wait until you are in a more positive mindset to get back into applying.The best way to move on is to just realize that you only need one job, and this is one of many job interview situations that are there for you, Taylor says.Remember that if the company did not want to hire you, you probably would not have wanted to work for them anyway.Often times when applicants submit their rsums, they go into a big black hole, never to be heard from again.If a company did not send you a personalized rejection letter, or otherwise made you feel like they did not value your time, Keswin says there is a good gunst der stunde you would not have felt welcome once you got to the company.All of those things speak to company values an d how they treat their people, she says. I would look in the mirror and say Is that a really company I would be happy at?Set up social events with close family and friends, and reach out to mentorsFor those feeling particularly stung, Taylor recommends reaching out to friends or family in your inner circle who can remind you of the bigger picture. Before you hop back into the job hunt, use the first couple of days to build up your self confidence. Reaching out to mentors for feedback or support can also be helpful, Taylor adds.Be sure to thank your interviewer the day you get a rejectionSend a thank-you email the day you get a rejection letter, as even a day later a hiring manager could be on to the next 12 candidates, Keswin says.If you moved onto the interview phase, Keswin recommends reaching out to not just your recruiter, but the specific people who interviewed you, and thank them for taking the time to meet with you.You had a different type of connection with all of these diff erent people, Keswin says. You should try to make a personal connection in that email and say you hope to keep in touch.If you particularly enjoyed interviewing for the company, ask your interviewer to keep you in mind for future positionsA rejection letter doesnt have to close all doors Especially if its a company you really thought you were interested in, you always want to leave things in a positive way to leave the door open, Keswin says.Sometimes, when a new manager comes in and needs to hire, companies keep a record of former applicants they liked so they can fill open positions. Other times, companies will reject applicants for a full-time position, but offer them contractual work, Taylor says. Maintaining a connection with your interviewer could lead to a job down the line.You can ask for feedback on why the hiring manager didnt go forward- but be cautiousThe best way to know why you didnt get a job is to ask, Keswin says. As you send a thank-you note to interviewers, she s uggests saying sorry it didnt work out, but if they had any specific feedback, you would love to hear it.Taylor, however, says that this approach could backfire. Managers often dont have time to give detailed feedback to each rejected candidate, and asking them to take time out of their day for you could feel burdensome. Theres a 60/40 chance youre irritating them more than anything else, Taylor says.If you received a few rejections in a row, take the time to analyze what could be missing in your resumeMany times people apply to several jobs during the interview stage. If multiple of your applications come out unsuccessful, you might need to examine your skills more critically, Keswin says.I would urge people to really be honest with themselves to do a post-mortem analysis on what the issue was, she adds.The first step is to figure out whether your rejections stem from missing skills or not being a culture fit. In the case of skills, it could be as simple as taking an online class a nd learning something new for your rsum.If you have the means, hiring a career coach could help you figure out what isnt workingIf the reasons why you got rejected were because of not being a cultural fit, or if they were unclear, seeking professional help could go a long way, Keswin says. As a career coach at NYU, she helped qualified candidates during the financial crisis figure out which of their skills were transferable, then she targeted jobs that could use those skills.A career coach helpedBusiness Insider reporter Shana Lebowitzfeel more empowered, and she learned how to make a roadmap to reach her goals. Career coaches can be expensive, however, so Keswin also recommends reaching out to university alumni networks first to get the saatkorn type of support without paying a fee.When you get back into job searching, try being more flexible with what youd consider applying toIf at first, you were uncomfortable relocating or transferring your skills to other industries, the time f ollowing a rejection could be a chance to widen your horizons, Taylor says.Especially if youre willing to be flexible on the exact job description, widen your scope just a little bit, she says. That may help your mindset.If youre currently employed, taking on another project at work could bulk up your rsumTaking on a new job could mean sacrificing the flexibility you earned through years of working at your current job, Keswin says. One way to get over a rejection is to focus on what you have, rather than what you dont.You can also build skills for when you do try to seek greener pastures Take on a new project at your current job, or focus on growing your side hustle.If you realize the job search may be taking longer than youd like, ask what are some positives you can focus on in other aspects of your life, Keswin says.After you build up your skills, dont be afraid to try again at your dream companyIf a hiring manager tells you that you were a good candidate, but they found a rock st ar, and they offer to keep in touch, dont take that information lightly, Keswin says. If you can figure out the skills you may be missing, you could try reaching out to similar positions at the company down the road. It shows youre really interested in the company, she says.This article first appeared on Business Insider.You might also enjoyNew neuroscience reveals 4 rituals that will make you happyStrangers know your social class in the first seven words you say, study finds10 lessons from Benjamin Franklins daily schedule that will ersatzdarsteller your productivityThe worst mistakes you can make in an interview, according to 12 CEOs10 habits of mentally strong people